Not meant to be
Divorce.
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How can so many of us go through divorce in our lives, yet every one of us go through it alone, broken in all the tenderest places in our hearts?
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Sometimes divorce is the obvious way forward. If you need a restraining order against your spouse, you need a divorce to go with that.
Often, however, the path is less clear. Are we incompatible, or are we merely stressed to the max?
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How do I know if our differences are truly irreconcilable?
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Even if I'm not happy, am I safer and more comfortable staying in this broken marriage than venturing into the unknown, solo?
Should I talk to an attorney, to my spouse, to my best friend? Talking makes everything so real, too real.
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If these kinds of questions are keeping you up at night, please know you have a safe space with me to work through your thoughts. While (hopefully obviously) I'm no marriage counselor, I've been there. Divorced. Twice. As a surgical resident. And as a surgeon.
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Sometimes our past self didn't do a great job of looking out for our future self. Sometimes people change. Or more clearly manifest who they always were.
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Whatever the case, I hope to help you get your bearings in this nasty terrain. You are a lotus, rising from dark and muddy waters. Please reach out.
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Sincerely,
Jill
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