Not meant to be
Divorce.
How can so many of us go through divorce in our lives, yet every one of us go through it alone, broken in all the tenderest places in our hearts?
Sometimes divorce is the obvious way forward. If you need a restraining order against your spouse, you need a divorce to go with that.
Often, however, the path is less clear. Are we incompatible, or are we merely stressed to the max?
How do I know if our differences are truly irreconcilable?
Even if I'm not happy, am I safer and more comfortable staying in this broken marriage than venturing into the unknown, solo?
Should I talk to an attorney, to my spouse, to my best friend? Talking makes everything so real, too real.
If these kinds of questions are keeping you up at night, please know you have a safe space with me to work through your thoughts. While (hopefully obviously) I'm no marriage counselor, I've been there. Divorced. Twice. As a surgical resident. And as a surgeon.
Sometimes our past self didn't do a great job of looking out for our future self. Sometimes people change. Or more clearly manifest who they always were.
Whatever the case, I hope to help you get your bearings in this nasty terrain. You are a lotus, rising from dark and muddy waters. Please reach out.
Sincerely,
Jill
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